Lady Zamar says she no longer expects any apology in order to forgive and move on. / Instagram

Singer and songwriter Lady Zamar has revealed how she had always expected an apology from the man she alleges violated her, but she is doing fine without it.

Taking on Threads recently, Lady Zamar, whose real name is Yamikani Janet Banda, alleged there were paid campaigns to smear her name.

“Now I realise I could not trust the apology of a person who actively violated me and spread horrendous lies about me so that more people could violate me even further. I know now that I do not need that apology to be okay. I will just trust God to fix that hurt. And soothe the anger instead of carrying it around with me. There is peace in Jesus Christ,” wrote Lady Zamar.

Ex-lover Sjava denied he raped her

Lady Zamar opened a case of rape with the police against singer Sjava in 2017, alleging that he had forced himself on her in a hotel room in Thohoyandou, Limpopo, after a concert.

However, Sjava has always maintained his innocence and released a video in 2020 denying that he was a rapist.

“I am not a rapist. And I have for years been advocating [against] abuse of any kind, any shape or form, be it women or children abuse, even alcohol abuse,” said Sjava.

She had blamed herself

In 2023, she appeared on Showmax’s Unfollowed to speak out about the backlash that she received after she laid the charge.

“It had happened two years before I spoke about it, I had always thought it was my fault,” said Lady Zamar.

“I had blamed myself immensely. And I felt like it was me who walked into that room unaware. We had never discussed anything sєxual, no intimacy had taken place prior to that.”