Vuyokazi Nciweni after chef Sabelo paid lobola for her. Pictures: Instagram.

Reality TV star Vuyokazi Nciweni may have bitten off more than she can chew after getting married not long after breaking up with Mpumelelo Msekelu, the father of her two children.

Post the messy breakup on TV, where Mseleku refused to make Nciweni his first wife and said he wanted to marry a virgin first before he would marry his two baby mamas.

Nciweni broke things off and moved on with Chef Xolani Sabelo, who paid lobola for her, making her his first wife.

While most people thought that Nciweni was too quick to move on and should’ve taken some time to heal and find herself, the “Izingane Ze’sthembu” star couldn’t care less about their opinions on her love life.

She wanted to become a wife and the chef gave her that.

However, there appears to be trouble in paradise after popular Instagrammer, Sbusie Phoswa, posted private conversations between Nciweni’s husband and her.

Sabelo sent Phoswa a message on Instagram, telling her he wished he had chosen her. After Phoswa posted their conversation, Sabelo messaged her again, pleading with her to remove the post.

A screenshot of a private message sent by chef Sabelo to Sbusie Phoswa.

And guess what? Phoswa posted that conversation too and when the posts made it to X, Nciweni looked a fool.

A conversation showing chef Sabelo pleading with Sphoswa to remove the post.

“Vuyokazi did not dodge a bullet mos. This chef is the same no [as] Mpumelelo,” commented @ndilehmtshali.

Another X user, @Ketso28, said: “They told her the guy was a serial cheater and a liar. She thought she was an exception because her heart was hoping she’d find a good man in him after what happened with that Mseleku variant. Ke sono shame [it’s a sad shame].”

Meanwhile, Nciweni has not yet commented about the matter and still has “wife” on her Instagram bio.

Signs of cheating

Cheating in relationships happens a lot. When it happens, there are always signs such as a sudden change in routine, the spark dwindling, avoiding big conversations and your partner becoming defensive about privacy and getting super secretive.

And to tackle such issues, relationship expert April Davis, the founder and president of LUMA Luxury Matchmaking, says one must be cautious and not panic.

“If you suspect your partner is thinking about cheating, don’t hit the panic button just yet. While certain behaviours may raise red flags, they’re not a smoking gun and could indicate deeper emotional struggles to explore with your partner.

“Try to address concerns calmly and constructively. Approach issues with open-ended, ‘I’ questions like, ‘I’ve noticed more distance between us than usual – what’s going on?” says Davis.

“And if you and your partner are dealing with these concerns, communication, trust, and even professional counselling can help navigate the rough waters. It’s all about working through those uncomfortable moments before they turn into bigger problems.”