The South African entertainment landscape is once again ablaze, not from a chart-topping hit or a sold-out stadium tour, but from the deeply personal and often turbulent terrain of celebrity relationships and infidelity.
At the center of the current storm is the coupling of music powerhouses DJ Zinhle and her husband, Murdah Bongz, whose relationship has been subjected to relentless public scrutiny following persistent rumors of cheatingโspecifically allegations that Bongz engaged in infidelity with fans.
This drama has been significantly amplified by the recent, highly controversial, and unapologetic intervention of media personality and Metro FM host, Somizi Mhlongo.
Mhlongo, a veteran figure known for his flamboyant personality and often unfiltered commentary, has reignited a fierce public debate with his uncompromising views on forgiveness after betrayal, delivered during his segment on the popular radio show, Ask a Man.
His comments, initially appearing to be a general philosophical statement on monogamy, have been widely interpreted by the public and social media commentators as a direct, albeit veiled, critique of DJ Zinhleโs decision to reportedly forgive her husband and attempt to move forward as if “everything is normal.”
The ensuing fallout has not only centered on the couple but has also placed a giant spotlight on Mhlongo himself, with some accusing him of harboring a specific, yet unproven, bias against disk jockeys.
The now-viral audio clip captures Mhlongo in a moment of absolute conviction, addressing the camera (and by extension, the radio audience and the nation) with a stern and definitive warning.
“Yes, let me look at the camera while I say this. Cheating should not be forgiven,” he declared, his tone one of absolute finality.
“You will thank me later a hundred years from now.”
“When I have a statue, you will walk by that statue and look at it and say, ‘Some was right.”
“Cheating should not be forgiven.'”
He dismissed the concept of remorse as irrelevant in the face of the act itself, stating, “I don’t care how remorseful you are because I don’t believe in the gods of my homosexual blood that cheating can be a mistake.”
Mhlongoโs perspective is rooted in the belief that infidelity is not a slip-up but a calculated choice.
“Cheating is a premeditated action or act.”
“True,” he asserted.
He then moved on to a highly contentious point regarding the potential for rehabilitation in a partner who has strayed.
He questioned the possibility of a cheater becoming a “better person for the next person” when they have already “missed the boat” with their current partner.
In a stunningly self-aware moment, Mhlongo used himself as a hypothetical example to underscore his cynicism regarding lasting repentance.
“If I had to cheat on my partner, if they forgive me, man, I know myself.”
“If they forgive me, trust me, I will be remorseful for the first three weeks.”
“Yes.”
“And I will go back to reset.”
“But now I reset better.”
“I do it better because a seed inside you that never disappears.”
This admissionโthat forgiveness might merely enable a more sophisticated future betrayalโstruck a powerful chord with many listeners, though it also painted a bleak picture of human nature.
The segment took a dramatic turn when Mhlongo directly addressed an anonymous caller who had reportedly forgiven a cheating partner, delivering what many are now calling a brutal dose of reality.
“Okay, so anonymous, the biggest mistake human beings make is to forgive a cheater.”
“And let me tell you why.”
He then delved into the psychological aftermath of infidelity, focusing not on the victim but on the cheater.
He argued that even if the anonymous partner never cheated again, “her nemesa, her conscience, yes, is eating her because she knows Ugi Kama is waiting for her somewhere.”
The victim’s decision to forgive, in Mhlongo’s view, inadvertently places an unbearable psychological burden on the cheater, who then expects the victim to act as their “karma.”
“So she thinks that you are going to be her karma and chances are you might not be her karma but still her karma is going to find her with somebody else but she does not know that.”
“She thinks you are going to be her karma.”
“You are going to cheat on her and make her feel the pain that you felt.”
“So this relationship will never ever have peace, anonymous.”
His conclusion for the caller was uncompromising: “You made a mistake by forgiving her because she has not even forgiven herself for what she did to you.”
“So, she is going to make your life a living night.”
The commentary quickly spilled over into social media, with fans and critics polarizing around Mhlongoโs rigid stance, particularly in the context of the ongoing DJ Zinhle and Murdah Bongz saga.
The fact that Somizi and DJ Zinhle are known to be friends has only intensified the public’s interest, leading many to speculate whether Mhlongoโs impassioned radio sermon was a subtle, yet unmistakable, message intended for his friend.
The online response has been a mixed bag of agreement, personal anecdotes, and outright dismissal of Mhlongoโs credentials to advise on heterosexual marriage.
One person’s comment directly addressed the perceived irony of the situation, stating, “So Mizi, you have to tell that to your friend like why are you not helping Ud because it is clear that the girl um has forgiven her husband and she’s moving on as if everything is normal.”
Perhaps the most salient critique revolved around Mhlongoโs marital status.
“When you are married, you should take advices from married people.”
“Just like when you want to know things about cars, you ask an experienced driver or an engineer and so on other things,” one user commented, effectively dismissing Mhlongo’s advice because he is not currently married.
This sentiment echoed the historical controversy surrounding his initial placement on the Ask a Man show, where many had questioned how a gay man, at the time unmarried, could credibly counsel men on traditional marital and dating dynamics.
Adding to the complexity, another commenter offered a cynical, yet perhaps truthful, perspective on the addictive nature of infidelity.
“I think cheating is a calling because yo, with crying emojis, I’m a best cheater in the world clean 24/7.”
This commenter claimed an ability to cheat undetected even under constant surveillance, suggesting that for some, cheating is not a failure of morals but a skill.
The discussion also brought forth a powerful, and painfully relatable, observation from a woman who suggested that staying with a cheater is often a strategic act of self-preservation rather than genuine forgiveness.
“No one forgives cheating.”
“Men or woman, we just stay to gain strength.”
“There is no need in rushing to leave when you have no plan,” she wrote.
She then laid out a tactical playbook for recovery and eventual exit: “The best part um is when you bounce back and he starts thinking you are cheating.”
“Then never being in a mood for [intimacy].”
“Then not worrying about his whereabouts anymore.”
“Peaceful before you exit.”
In a twist that confused many listeners, another commenter pointed out an apparent contradiction in Mhlongoโs own narrative.
“Bargaga is contra contradicting himself because earlier he said that he does not cheat anymore because he is a rehabilitated cheater.”
“Now he says once a cheater always a cheater.”
This highlighted the potential for Mhlongo’s own complicated personal history to undermine the universal authority of his current pronouncement.
The overwhelming consensus among the public remains focused on DJ Zinhle.
“People are saying um DJ should watch this video or so should um literally call DJ and advise her because she is um losing it at this point,” indicating that the public views her decision to stay as a sign of weakness or delusion.
The pain of the situation is compounded by the perception that “history is repeating itself,” referencing previous struggles in her high-profile relationships.
The public’s intense desire to see Zinhle leave Murdah Bongz stems from a place of sympathy: “Man, this is deserves better.”
The entire conversation has been dramatically overshadowed by the unverified existence of a ‘side chick,’ who allegedly posted and then quickly deleted a cryptic and “shady” message on her Instagram stories, seemingly mocking the situation.
This anonymous person is described as the alleged mistress of Murdah Bongz, someone who had previously claimed to be just a fan but then allegedly threw a mocking shade, only to remove the evidence.
This action, regardless of its authenticity, fuels the narrative that Zinhleโs relationship is being subjected to public disrespect and humiliation, further validating Mhlongoโs belief that such relationships lack peace.
The core question now hanging in the air is whether DJ Zinhle, as Mhlongoโs friend, will view his advice as a heartfelt intervention or a public betrayal.
Is Somizi truly worried for his friend, or is his advice, as one critic suggested, merely the bitterness of a “broken” person who is “always telling people to leave their partners” because of his own divorce?
The public remains divided: is Zinhle “staying with Ma or he she is forgiving metab mainly because she is not ready to leave and she’s still like gathering all the strength in the world,” as the commenter wondered, choosing the strategic retreat period described by the woman on social media?
Mhlongo’s wordsโthat a relationship after cheating “will never ever have peace” because the cheater has not forgiven themselvesโcast a long, dark shadow over the future of one of Mzansiโs most recognizable couples, forcing a national conversation about the true cost of forgiveness in the modern age.
His uncompromising stance, while controversial, serves as a powerful testament to the enduring public debate: can a relationship truly recover from the premeditated and deep wound of betrayal?
The world is watching to see if DJ Zinhle’s path to peace proves Somizi Mhlongo right, or if she can achieve a forgiveness he deems impossible.
